Upon reading a request for an ego decision making article, I learned two things. The first thing that I learned is that we are the decision-makers. The second thing I learned is that the ego is the driving force when making decisions. Your ego is best defined as your self-esteem, or how you assess your own worth. Your ego is the part of your identity that you identify with the most. It is the part of your inner being that you yourself believe to be true, even though others may have a different opinion of who they think you are.

Maybe you sing and have written a few of your own songs. You might have produced the beat or instrumental, written the lyrics by hand, and directed the video. You thought while you were creating that it was of excellent quality and composition. Your ego was trying to convince you that you were the best performer in the business. There may have been rumors that you would become very wealthy and well-known with this material.

Your music was good when you finally released it, but it wasn’t as popular as you had anticipated. Your pride may be telling you that you need better marketing, even though your ego may have taken a hit. The real world may be telling you that the content was terrible. Instead of taking constructive criticism, you argue with your viewers and on social media platforms.

Some people exhibit extreme egotism, even to the point of being narcissistic. They exaggerate their sense of importance, which is unfounded in reality. When someone has narcissism, they have a personality disorder or mental illness that causes them to be excessively self-centered. These people seek praise for all of their accomplishments, no matter how small or significant they may be. They desire to always be the center of attention and anticipate receiving special treatment. When they want people to pay attention to them, they may throw temper tantrums or have other outbursts.

Some people frequently allow their egos to get in the way of good judgment. In some circumstances, people amplify things rather than acting morally. They find it difficult to acknowledge when they are mistaken or possibly in error. They tend to be more concerned with what would be beneficial to themselves than with how things will affect those around them. They ignore the facts of the matter at hand in favor of self-gratification because they believe they are greater than any penalties they may face. Sports, politics, disputes, business, etc. are all examples of this.

HOW TO REMOVE EGO FROM DECISION MAKING

For egotistical people who think they are better than others, it can be challenging to put their egos aside in social situations. This can become a huge burden when faced with decision-making. There are many ways you can do this if you want to swallow your pride. Before acting, you can first pause and think. Consider the impact your choice will have on others. Will this choice harm others or prevent them from achieving certain objectives? If the answer is yes, you might need to give yourself a little more time for strategic decision making.

Think about how this will affect you. Will your choice help others while severely hurting you? Your ego might tell you that you don’t deserve to go through this. You might act and feel as though you are superior to the situation. Let’s say you share a close relationship with a coworker who puts in a lot of effort. You recently received a promotion and used the extra money to buy a new home. We talked about the possibility of taking over the business since the current owner will soon be retiring. Your preferred coworker was one of the two candidates who were up for consideration.

You might feel that you are equally deserving of the position in this circumstance as they are. You want to be cordial and helpful to your coworker, but you also just bought a house and could use the additional funds. Due to your interest in the job, you might be more competitive. Additionally, if you feel you deserve the job, you may have a conflict with a coworker. In this situation, you can allow your ego to lead you in the right direction, but avoid being overly arrogant or you might miss your chance. Every choice we make is motivated by either love or fear.

Strategic Decision Making

Nearly every bad choice is the result of an ego that is in poor health. Even when your ego is used for good, it can occasionally work against you rather than for you. You might have a failure-type ego. You might feel inferior or like you’re not good enough. When making decisions, this may be detrimental. Because it would be a waste of time, you might feel like you don’t want to work as hard as you should. This kind of thinking frequently results from an ego seeking to defend itself. People who belittle others in order to feel more important require a sense of power in order to feel important.

When making decisions, you should put aside your ego and consider how you can benefit others rather than harm them. Explain to them why you believe you are deserving of a powerful position. Show them that with your action as well. Conflict-avoiders try to make problems go away by acting as if they don’t exist. Since the issue is never resolved, this makes things worse. When there are underlying problems, they behave as if everything is in perfect harmony. Your ego tells you that you lack the courage to take on the challenges in your life. You have to have the courage necessary to speak up for yourself.