Rule #1: Establish Your Ideal Love Weight

“ Looking Glass Self ” 

This Phrase was first coined by the sociologist Charles Horton Cooley in 1902. This Phrase is described as being how we actually define ourselves by our interactions with others. This is a way of comparing ourselves to others and how it can steer our self-esteem and insecurities in the wrong direction.

The book, Love Rules: How To Find Love In A Digital World, quotes a statement taken from another author in which the author claims that “Many people today spend most of their time investing in trying to understand ourselves from the feedback from others rather than actually knowing who we truly are.”

This chapter basically talks about figuring out what you want from a potential partner and your growing relationship moving forward. It is a self-defining chapter that allows you to dig deep within yourself and be realistic about the person you are searching for to complete you after you have grown to be content within yourself. 

The main goal in this chapter is to establish your ideal love goal. There are separate sections of the book which allow you spaces to gather your thoughts. I will be realistic and share my goals with you. This mainly will be so that you can get to know me and what I am looking for as well as help me create reader-worthy content and possibly find my forever love. Let’s read this book together. If you need to find the book to read along click HERE for a book link.

1. I want to find:

Someone who listens as much as they talk. 

2. My ideal partner has the following 3 qualities:

Humor

Intellect

Money

3. Analyze what others say they want for you and your relationships:

Parents: Stable long term relationship

Best Friend: Hot guy, nice car, own place, NO DRAMA

Siblings: My baby daddy (Insert laugh here)

Colleagues: A Family man

Online Friends: Someone who will keep me off social media (Laughs)

4. Do their expectations align with what you want?

Yes, they do to a certain extent. All of it seems ideal and would automatically be something that I or you would want clearly. I would enjoy all of their wants but in a different person, environment, and lifetime probably. (Laughs again)